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Being a human isn’t simple, easy, or even intuitive. We all go about it, pretending we know how to do it, and assuming that everyone else around us has it figured out. We all struggle, but we never talk about the struggle (because we don’t talk about Fight Club).
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Here are a few of the counter-intuitive hard truths of life:
→ Doing hard things in the moment makes life easier overall.
→ The cure for the pain is in the pain.
→ There is no arrival (it is not the job, not the true love, not your age, or the amount of money you make). It’s ALL a journey until you die.

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This past year as I’ve been working with clients and chatting with friends, I’ve noticed that many people are struggling to recover from the impacts of the Covid-19 culture shifts. As I’ve listened to people’s stories of returning to ‘normal life’, they have all shared the same themes:

• Feelings of detachment, or feeling alone in the world
• Feelings of disassociation
• Anxiety, or in some cases, panic
• Confusion/mental fog
• Changes in perception
• Sensory overload
• Time management challenges
• Loss of motivation
• Increased cynicism

I’ve taken to (jokingly, among friends) referring to this as the C-Hole, short for Covid-Hole. This name comes from....
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Hustle culture can be described as a lifestyle that touts overworking as the only path to success, self-worth, and earning respect from others. Hustle culture would have you believe that the more you do — the more valuable you are, and that in order to be ‘good enough’ you must squeeze out every last ounce of productivity from your day, often sacrificing self-care, rest, friendships, or hobbies. Hustle culture lures you with the promise of ‘having it all’, if only you work hard enough.
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The problem with the hustle culture belief system is that it doesn’t serve human beings. We were not designed to work long hours, or to be singularly focused. Research shows that human beings experience the most contentment and meaning from multifaceted lifestyles. When a person’s life is filled with varied hobbies, types of rest, exercise, friends, work, and new experiences, they report having the most joy and satisfaction in life. Additionally, research shows that a balanced life breeds more productivity. So, the question is, why are we sold all of the hype if it doesn’t work?

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Let’s be honest, good habits are hard to keep even when you are feeling your best and believing in infinite possibilities for your future. When your feelings start to go south, and that negative voice in your head creeps in, (quite annoyingly telling you that you’re a piece of shit), it is even harder to stick to good habits. However, in these moments, doubling down on your commitment pays off. Positive habits, intentional routines, and deliberate actions are the exact things that will transform your life into an experience that you feel deeply satisfied with.

You must commit to the actions that you know will lead to success in spite of any negative thoughts or feelings. Personal growth & development is hard and uncomfortable — AND, it is also exactly what you need to lean into if you want to create the life that you wish you had. While the process of growth can be challenging and requires commitments, the results are without compare. When you are waking up to a life that you feel good living every single day, the ‘cost’ of personal growth will feel like nothing. You will be happy to have paid it.


Thoughts and feelings follow actions.

If you want to succeed in life (whatever your unique definition of success might be) you simply cannot wait to feel ____________(motivated / good / confident / skinny / happy) before you commit to the habits, routines, and actions that are required to create the life your soul is longing for.....


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