The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines authenticity as: "true to one's own personality, spirit, or character". Psychology Today shares that "individuals considered authentic are those who strive to align their actions with their core values and beliefs with the hope of discovering, and then acting in sync with, their true selves".
Authenticity is determined by both the unveiling of the innate self as well as the choices people make throughout their lives. When these two things are in alignment, people report experiencing more joy and meaning in their lives. In fact, authenticity is known as the "bedrock of well-being". It is correlated with self-esteem, purpose, vitality, and the ability to set and accomplish goals. It is also linked to coping skills that allow individuals to navigate life challenges successfully.
The Unveiling of the Innate Self
The first step to leading an authentic life is doing the work to identify who you are at your core - or innate self. This innate self can be covered up by family, societal or cultural expectations. For many of us religion has played a role in creating belief systems that may, or may not, work for us any longer. The unveiling of the true self begins with removing all of the "shoulds" in your life. Some of these "shoulds" are so deeply ingrained in us, that we don't even realize that they are driving our lives and hiding who we really are (at times, even from ourselves). Removing these and discovering what is remaining is the first investigation. You have a natural, wise, innate self that knows what is best for you and knows all the answers for you in your life. When we uncover this self, it can begin to show up and lead your life.
The Sum of your Choices
The second step to leading an authentic life is to align your choices with your innate self. Let's be honest here - you are not your thoughts, your feelings or your intentions. When it all comes down to it, you are the sum of your choices. Developing the ability to courageously make choices in alignment with your authentic self allows you to experience feeling whole and complete. It also allows you to have the impact on your life, you work, or your family that you were born to have. Your innate self is unique for a purpose, and living in alignment with that truth is what begins to open all the doors in your life. This is where the magic happens.
Characteristics of Authenticity
Authentic people tend to have the ability to speak their mind gracefully, respond to internal expectations rather than external ones, and fulfill their unique passion and purpose. Authentic people know who they are and can stand firmly in their truth. They aren't threatened by failure and can admit their faults. They accept themselves and others, they have clarity on what they need and where they are going, and they have strong self-esteem.
The science is clear that leading an authentic life is linked with success and happiness. It takes time, it can be challenging, and it requires a commitment (to yourself). If you are interested in learning more, schedule a free consultation or sign up for my 16-week Authenticity Coaching package.
Let’s be honest, good habits are hard to keep even when you are feeling your best and believing in infinite possibilities for your future. When your feelings start to go south, and that negative voice in your head creeps in, (quite annoyingly telling you that you’re a piece of shit), it is even harder to stick to good habits. However, in these moments, doubling down on your commitment pays off. Positive habits, intentional routines, and deliberate actions are the exact things that will transform your life into an experience that you feel deeply satisfied with.
You must commit to the actions that you know will lead to success in spite of any negative thoughts or feelings. Personal growth & development is hard and uncomfortable — AND, it is also exactly what you need to lean into if you want to create the life that you wish you had. While the process of growth can be challenging and requires commitments, the results are without compare. When you are waking up to a life that you feel good living every single day, the ‘cost’ of personal growth will feel like nothing. You will be happy to have paid it.
Thoughts and feelings follow actions.
If you want to succeed in life (whatever your unique definition of success might be) you simply cannot wait to feel ____________(motivated / good / confident / skinny / happy) before you commit to the habits, routines, and actions that are required to create the life your soul is longing for.....
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Mindy is also a licensed mediator, communications coach, and conflict resolution practicer. As a mediator, she has worked both in private practice and as a court appointment mediator at her local county courthouse.
Through her innovative approach, she assists clients in examining their limiting beliefs, questioning their assumptions about how the world works, and releasing the notion that they are anything less than perfect. As a result, individuals who work with Mindy cultivate the ability to stand firm in their beliefs, live authentically and decisively, and discover an experience of life that is easy and graceful.
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