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The Laughing Heart

4/25/2023

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The Laughing Heart by Charles Bukowski

your life is your life
don't let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is a light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them.
take them.
you can't beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight
in you.
- The Great Charles Bukowski ​💙

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The Invitation

9/22/2022

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The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer
The Invitation Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life’s betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it, or fade it, or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day. And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand at the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, ‘Yes.’

It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

​I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

(One of my all-time favorite poems, by the talented Oriah Mountain Dreamer.)
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My Favorite Rumi Quote

9/12/2022

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Rumi Quote Out Beyond the ideas
Rumi is one of my all-time favorite poets.  There is so much wisdom, depth, and BEing in his work.  I am grateful for his work almost every single day.   One of my favorite quotes is:

"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field.  I will meet you there."

This is just a single quote of a much larger (and beautiful) poem called The Great Wagon.  You can read the full poem here. 

I have been using this quote as a guide post in my life for years, with great results.
I believe that the ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, while necessary in the world to some extent, have primarily become constructs by which we judge self and other.  When we step outside of this framework, we access curiosity, possibility, wonder, connection, and acceptance (just to name a few!).   I often start my workshops, coaching sessions and satsangs with this quote.  Just to remind everyone that there is a different choice - that we don't have to show up in the dogmas of our childhoods, cultures or ancestors.  We can show up in the field of awareness, and that is infinitely more powerful.  
I love playing in the world.  This is a wonderful concept to begin a playful experiment with.  As much as possible bring your awareness throughout your day to every judgment of right and wrong that you have.  During the day, you might think things like;
  • That sounded stupid
  • He shouldn't have said that
  • She shouldn't wear that
  • They don't get it
  • I should be more confident
  • I should say yes
  • I know the answer (for that person/situation)
  • I know what you should do
Mindy Aisling Quote Thoughts are like jeans
If you pay attention to how these thoughts feel, you might notice that they are hard, limited, contracted, and dense.  I always say that they feel like styrofoam.  When you notice yourself thinking in right/wrong judgements, try on new thoughts.  Thoughts are like jeans, you can just try them on and see how they feel.  If they feel good, keep them.  If they feel bad, put them back on the rack.  Possible thoughts to try on in these situations are:
  • I wonder what they meant by that?
  • Why was that comment valuable? 
  • What can I appreciate about that?
  • What am I feeling or needing in this moment?
  • What might be in their heart?
  • What are they feeling or needing in this moment?
  • What would be different if I accepted this right now?
  • How can I release my resistance in this moment?
  • What can I learn right now?  from them?
When you pay attention to how these thoughts feel, you might notice that they are open, curious, expansive and light.  ​I'd suggest practicing this for a few weeks, and see what impact it has on your life.  If it has a positive impact, yahooo!, you've discovered a new way of being that improves your life.  


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