Have you ever become so bogged down with the humdrum tediousness of life that you forget that you're here to live your dreams? Yeah, me too. Take out the trash, buy the milk, make money, plan for retirement, clean the cat box... and it goes on and on into nauseating repetition. It is true that life has its boring aspects, but when combined with striving to achieve your dreams, these seemingly boring things can take on a comforting and reassuring quality. It's strange but true. However, when you lose sight of your dreams and all you have are the tasks of life, it can lead to depression and apathy.
Your desires were given to you with a purpose - to discover a way to experience them in this lifetime. That's it. It's simple. The purpose of life is not to make money, contribute to capitalism, or achieve an award for being normal or good enough. The purpose of life is to achieve your dreams and be kind to others and the earth in the process. If you've been stressing about life, I give you permission to go ahead and stop. There is no need to stress that you're "doing it right", all you have to do is lean into that which you love.
Tip #1 - To Get Closer To Your Dreams: Start Identifying What Brings You Joy.
Start identifying what brings you joy. It can be as simple as your cup of coffee in the morning. Find every tiny thing that brings you joy and do more of them, focus on them, and be present with them. When you actively partake in activities that put you in a joyful state of being, you automatically align energetically with your dreams.
Every moment you are experiencing joy, you are 'paying' for your dream to be created in your future. Energy, or feelings, are the currency that we use to purchase (create) what we want in life. To create something in this world you need to plant and nurture the seed of the thing that you want. As humans, we do that by focusing on the feeling or vibration of that thing. When you lay around dreaming of the life you'd love to live, that life holds the vibration of joy. So find ways to feel more joy in now, and in the strange and magical way of things, you'll be getting close to what you want in the future.
Tip #2 - To Get Closer To Your Dreams: Connect With The YOU in the future that you're dreaming about.
Begin by connecting with who you are in the future that you're dreaming about. What does your future self do? What do they think? How do they feel? What actions do they take? What choices do they make? What are their habits and beliefs? Take the time to get really clear on who this future version of you is (you can do this by daydreaming more about the future you want). After you have clarity on this future version of yourself, identify how the current you is different. Recognize the gap.
After you recognize the gap - don't beat yourself up!! This is really important because beating yourself up is going to get you further away from your dreams. It's okay that you're not there yet. There is a well-used belief system in our culture that says if you hate yourself or beat yourself up, then you'll change into the person that you want to be. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Love yourself in the now and recognize who you want to be in the future. Then, take action steps to behave, think, and believe more like you imagine your future self would. In every moment, ask yourself, "What would my future self do in this situation?" When you start behaving as your future self would, you will begin to pull that future vision toward you.
Tip #3 - To Get Closer To Your Dreams: Decide That You Are The Boss of Your Thoughts
Decide that you are the boss of your thoughts. Now is the time to draw a line in the sand and embrace the truth that you are not your thoughts. You are something much bigger and more powerful. That means that you are the one who gets to choose which thoughts are telling you the truth and which thoughts are lying to you.
You will have thoughts that will try and take you away from achieving #1 & #2 (above). Each person thoughts are unique, but some of the thoughts that are your 'red flags' are thoughts that sound like this:
Begin to recognize your 'red flag' thoughts, and anytime they enter your mind, do not entertain them. Tell them that they are not the truth, reaffirm what is the truth, and move on with your day. I suggest making a list of what your red flag thoughts sound like, and then don't give them a freakin' inch.
Your dreams are waiting for you, and you have what it takes to achieve them. I'm so excited for you.
Mindy Amita Aisling
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Mindy Amita Aisling, is a professionally trained and board-certified leadership, authenticity, and entrepreneur coach.
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Mindy is also a licensed mediator, communications coach, and conflict resolution practicer. As a mediator, she has worked both in private practice and as a court appointment mediator at her local county courthouse.
Through her innovative approach, she assists clients in examining their limiting beliefs, questioning their assumptions about how the world works, and releasing the notion that they are anything less than perfect. As a result, individuals who work with Mindy cultivate the ability to stand firm in their beliefs, live authentically and decisively, and discover an experience of life that is easy and graceful.
In 2021, Mindy founded How to Be Human and Entreprenerd. These programs have enabled her to share her wisdom and knowledge with a broader audience in service of her vision of helping others live authentic lives This, in turn, has empowered more individuals to lead their most TRUE and COURAGEOUS lives.
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