Learning From Your Past

3/28/2023

One is not in bondage to the past, which has shaped our feelings, to race, inheritance, background. All this can be altered if we have the courage to examine how it formed us. We can alter the chemistry provided we have the courage to dissect the elements." - Anais Nin.

Learning From Your Past

Our past experiences shape who we are and how we perceive the world around us. While some experiences may be positive and contribute to personal growth, others may be painful and challenging. Regardless of whether our past experiences were positive or negative, there is always something to learn from them. By reflecting on our past, we can gain valuable insights that can help us navigate the present and build a better future.

Identify Patterns
One of the most important things we can learn from our past is to identify patterns. By looking at past experiences and identifying common themes, we can gain insights into our behavior and the situations that trigger certain responses. This knowledge can help us make more informed decisions and avoid repeating negative patterns in the future.

Identify "Stories" and Belief Systems
As we dissect our past, it is valuable to look deeper and discover what core stories and belief systems contributed to certain decisions and responses in our path. We can then decide if we need to update any of those belief systems in order to achieve our current goals.

Practice Forgiveness
Many people carry emotional baggage from past experiences that can hold them back from moving forward. Forgiveness is a powerful tool that can help us release negative emotions and move on from past hurts. By practicing forgiveness (including self-forgiveness), we can free ourselves from the burden of the past and focus on building a positive future.

Celebrate Achievements
It's important to acknowledge and celebrate our achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Reflecting on past successes can help build confidence and motivation, reminding us of our ability to overcome challenges and achieve our goals.

Learn From Mistakes
Making mistakes is a natural part of the learning process. Rather than dwelling on past mistakes, we can use them as opportunities for growth and learning. By analyzing what went wrong and how we can avoid similar mistakes in the future, we can build resilience and develop new skills.

Embrace Change
Change is an inevitable part of life, and the past can offer valuable insights into how we've adapted to change in the past. By looking at how we've navigated past transitions and challenges, we can develop new strategies for dealing with change and build greater resilience.

Reflecting on our past experiences can be a powerful tool for personal growth and development, and it is key to changing our future.

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The Best Quotes on Luck (& Life)

3/9/2023

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Enjoy this collection of quotes on luck and life.

Did I miss your favorite? Let me know in the comments below!

Quotes on Luck and Life with Coach Mindy Aisling

Quotes about Luck and Life, Mindy Aisling

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The Hands-Down Best Quotes About Self Care

10/13/2022

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The Hands-Down Best Quotes About Self Care

Self-care isn't just about bubble baths and long walks - it is a serious and necessary practice for living an authentic life. It is the ONLY way to cultivate a relationship with your inner wisdom, and allow that wisdom to guide you in the world. Self-care is not always easy, some self-care tasks like having a difficult conversation can require courage and dedication. However, the actions of self-care, overall make your life easy and more enjoyable because they allow you to stay aligned with who you really are.

Enjoy these great quotes about self care:

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“Within you, there is a stillness and a sanctuary to which you can retreat at any time and be yourself.”— Hermann Hesse

“To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections.”— Sandra Bierig

“Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity.”— Katrina Mayer

“If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I am not interested in or open to your feedback. There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their own lives, but will spend every ounce of energy they have hurling advice and judgement at those of us trying to dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear-mongering. If you're criticizing from a place where you're not also putting yourself on the line, I'm not interested in your feedback.”
- Brene Brown

“Honestly, self-care is not fluffy. It’s something we should take seriously.”— Kris Carr

“In today's world, self-care is an act of rebellion." -Mindy Aisling

“Self-care is how you take your power back.”— Lalah Delia

Look the world straight in the face.”— Helen Keller

“When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”— Jean Shinoda Bolen

“Self-care equals success. You’re going to be more successful if you take care of yourself and you’re healthy.”— Beth Behrs

“Always make decisions that prioritize your inner peace.”— Izey Victoria Odiase

“This revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin to undo the aversive messages of a lifetime.”— Tara Brach

“Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.”— Cecilia Tran

“Be patient with yourself. Self-growth is tender; it’s holy ground. There’s no greater investment.”— Stephen Covey

“The most creative act you will ever undertake is the act of creating yourself.”— Deepak Chopra

“Self-care is your fuel ... Whatever the road ahead or the path you’ve taken, self-care is what keeps your motor running and your wheels turning.”— Melissa Steginus

“I think I deserve something beautiful.”— Elizabeth Gilbert

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Our Deepest Fear Is Not That We Are Inadequate

10/11/2022

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

This quote is often misattributed to Nelson Mandela, but was actually written by Marianne Williamson in her book, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles". You can read the Snopes about it here). This is a famous quote, and it is no surprise why - because it speaks the truth of the human experience, and truth can be felt in our hearts.

Being authentically yourself, and allowing that authentic self to shine as brightly as possible is the most courageous thing that you can do with your life. I believe that each of us has a yearning to do this - to live into our gifts as fiercely as possible, but the question is, exactly how do you become liberated from your own fear? How do you learn to freely allow your greatness to exercise sovereign power over your life?

I don't believe the answer is easy, my friends. If I could write an article called "3 Steps to Liberating Yourself From Your Fear & Fully Living Your into Your Brilliance", my guess is that your gut would call bullshit. Because as I said above, you can feel truth... and you can feel a lie, and pretending this is easy stuff just wouldn't be the truth. It also wouldn't serve us. It would just add another layer to this completely erroneous, all-pervasive belief that says that when you you finally ______, you will arrive. You will finally be happy, you can finally rest, it will finally all be okay. You will no longer question yourself, and everything you want will come with ease. Oh, what a fantasy that is. You might as well believe that tiny unicorns will carry away every thought of self beat-up before your consciousness perceives it.

The truth is that this courageous way of living, continually choosing things to further liberate us from our fear and more fully shine our light, is hard. This pursuit is a journey, and it requires you to bare your soul, again and again. It means that you will be in the arena, marred with dust, blood and tears. It is about showing up and being seen, and as Brene Brown says, "If you are going to show up and be seen, there is only one guarantee: you will get your ass kicked." Yes, my friends, you will fail again and again. You will be squeezed and you will soar. You will live to the edges of your humanity.

Things won't get easier, they will get harder... but somehow you'll be happier. Thats the oxymoron here, the complete brain f*ck. Life will call you to the table. You will be required to put it all on the line. You will have to have conversations that terrify you. You will have to own parts of yourself that have spent a lifetime in darkness. You will be required to create boundaries stronger than the walls of Mordor. You will have to learn to say no. You will have to stand up, legs shaking, and step forward.

It's not 3 steps, its millions of steps. It is choosing, over and over again, the path that you can't really see, the one that doesn't make logical sense and is invisible until you step out. It's choosing the angst of confusion over the comfort of knowing. It is sitting with the discomfort of risk over the illusion of safety. It is questioning everything, always, in the pursuit of shedding more layers (both of yourself and this world). It is a commitment to growth. It is not somewhere you arrive, but something you become. It is not something you can Do, it is something you have to Be.

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