In 2010 Mindy Amita Aisling graduated from iPEC, one of the most highly acclaimed coaching schools in the world, far exceeding the requirements set froth by the International Coaching Federation. Immediately after graduation, Mindy launched her life coaching business, serving clients all over the world, and was highly successful both locally and internationally.
In her second year of coaching, she was featured in the New York Times as a successful coach under 40. Mindy wrote grants for community members to attend workshops free of charge, and she developed curriculum for educational courses on life and How To Be Human. She was a keynote speaker for a variety of groups, offered a series of classes and workshops, hosted community enrichment & advocacy events, and coached individuals and businesses both locally and remotely.
In addition to her education as a coach, Mindy is also a certified mediator and has served as a mediator privately, and for the Deschutes County Courthouse.
Currently, Mindy focuses almost exclusively on one-on-one coaching work with individuals and businesses who are seeking to have a more authentic and aligned life and/or business. Mindy is also in the process of revising her curriculum from in-person courses to online DIY Coaching Courses for fellow autodidacts.
What unique gifts do you bring to your coach/client relationships?
I am highly empathetic. Yup, I'm one of those people that is brought to tears by life almost every single day. Some days they are sad tears, but some days they are tears of awe and wonder, or joy and gratitude. I am seriously moved by life and the experience of being human. This natural empathy allows me to connect to my client's experience of life in a very real way and allows them to feel tremendously seen and heard.
I am direct. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. I don't beat around the bush, or sugarcoat things. Often times when people say they are direct they are actually using this as an excuse to be mean, or "brutally honest" - nope, that is not what I'm talking about. When I say that I am direct, I'm referring to this natural inclination - or need even, to be completely transparent and authentic. I talk about the things that all humans experience but most humans shrink away from giving voice to, like shame, desire, fear, insecurity, resentment, yearning, hope, and love.
I am curious. My wild curiosity is one of the things that I love most about myself, and my clients have reported that the space of curiosity that I bring into our sessions has been valuable in our coach/client relationship. I find the world, the experience of being human, and each individual's unique story, gifts, challenges, and traumas... all of this is endlessly fascinating. I have no space for judgment in my life or my work because judgment cancels curiosity. Judgment and curiosity can not exist at the same time, and given the choice between feeling judgment or curiosity - I'll choose curiosity every single time.
What is your coaching style?
My philosophy is that every single person already has all of the answers for themselves and their life, they only need to remove the obstacles that are in the way of accessing their inner wisdom and clarity. Many times when clients come to me, they have a belief system that they are somehow not whole, that they have to be someone or something different in order to succeed - that they are not enough. Nothing could be further from the truth. When I am coaching, I am holding the space for my clients to realize their wholeness, and to come home to who they really are. My clients gain the ability to stand so firmly rooted in who they are, that even life's biggest challenges don't shake their roots.
What are some of the goals that you've helped your clients reach?
Wow, over the past 12 years of coaching, I've also grown as a coach and a human, and I've tried on different niches of coaching to see where my greatest strengths are. When I first started coaching, I was also an NFPT fitness trainer, so I focused primarily on health, wellness, balance & self-care. Then I went back to school for more training, became certified as a mediator, and focused on communication, emotional intelligence, conflict resolution, and relationship. Given my rich past in entrepreneurship, I've worked with a plethora of clients on opening businesses or changing careers. For a short time, I branded myself as the 'clarity coach' and helped people who were stuck in making a decision for their life. Now, I would say that my primary focus is authenticity - and that path includes many of the previous areas of my expertise. I would say the top 5 goals that I've helped my clients achieve over the years are:
What is the process you use to help your clients reach their goals?
Each client is a bit different, so the process isn't always this linear, but in an effort to over-simplify the answer, so that it's easy to communicate, I'd list the steps as something like this:
I also have coaching package designed with a specific goal in mind, and the process for these is slightly different.
When people ask the question, "How much does Life Coaching cost?" they are usually referring exclusively to money. While I'll address that in this blog, I also want to talk about the other valuable commodities that we invest in anything and everything we do in our lives (because I don't think we talk about them enough). Life Coaching is an investment in YOU - you will need to invest time, effort/energy, and money. Let's talk about it.
Life Coaching: The Time Investment
Most coaching sessions occur one hour per week. This can vary based on the client's needs, and possibly, on requirements that the coach has. Some coaches require a certain level of commitment, and other coaches are more flexible in their approach.
Outside of session time, you will need alone time for reflection and processing, time to do your homework/action steps, and time for increased self-care. The amount of time that you spend on these things will determine the speed of your personal growth and the accomplishment of your goal. Depending on your unique situation, and the work that you're doing within your sessions, this could be an additional hour a week, or several hours a week. You can discuss this with your coach during your sessions.
Live Coaching: The Energy or Effort Investment
The biggest cost that you pay to achieve anything in your life is your energy. Each of us has a different level of core energy, and our life circumstances and level of health can also impact the amount of energy we have to spend on the various things we need to do in life. While the "spoon theory" is lingo used for chronic illness, the concept can be used universally. You have a limited amount of energy to spend every day, and you have to consciously and intentionally choose where you are spending that energy. Any form of personal growth & development, including life coaching, is going to require you to spend energy. At the beginning of a coaching relationship, the amount of energy you have, and how you spend that energy, is something that you should discuss with your coach.
Life Coaching: The Money Investment
Life Coaching, like the exchange of any service, requires payment. Life Coaches charge anywhere from $25/hour to $2,025/hr - there is a vastly wide spectrum of rates. The most common rate is $150 - $250/hr. Many coaches offer discounts for packages or sliding scale rates. You can discuss rates and packages with your coach during a complimentary session. Remember, there is no shame or weirdness in talking about money - that is a limiting cultural belief system, and I recommend you don't buy into it. Money is just another form of energy - and how much you have or don't have doesn't define who you are. It's okay to talk bluntly about money with your coach.
Remember, you are not paying for that single moment in time while you are working with your coach. You are paying for all of the time they invested in education, training, certification, etc - to get to that moment and have the ability to coach you - and you are paying for all of your future moments that will stem from coaching with them. The growth and discovery you make as a client will impact the rest of your life, and those future moments are the moments you are paying for. If you live for another 50 years, that's 438,000 hours. If a 3-month (12 hours/1 session per week) package with your coach facilitates a shift in you that impacts the rest of your life - that's a pretty good ROI.
Mindy Amita Aisling